Welcome back! In my home I like keeping old values, be simple and know I am in our Creators hands. I learned embracing people and compassion at an early age from my parents. The example was many moons ago, we attended a children’s bible group and I can still hear the hymn “this little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine” a good blurred memory at that young age. All the children gathered around sitting in a circle and our eyes fixated on the women who helped us understand love and compassion by their actions of engagement and bible stories instilled how we should treat one another. My parents did the best they can and gave me and my siblings the experience of being around people. Socialization in their homes, visiting new places and being around their friends and relatives, who we called “aunties and uncles” and their families was not only important for us, it was for them leaving a country behind and engaging with a new life and journey for their family. This taught us camaraderie being around others and lessons then about respect. A lesson around the young and the old, genuine acceptance, and importance of treating friends and family as number one whom ever you invite to your home. We can all continue the importance of hospitality, and compassion, which can overcome the negative attitudes like gossip, hostility, and avoidance. These experiences will be put away in our lexicons for survival in this world. It will help us over come indifference, cattiness, and our bad habits and change.
It is not easy to recognize the world around you when there are distractions. Lack of empathy or a loss causes us to lose communication, be unsociable or be depressed leading to presumptions. Reach out to someone, maybe you have to talk to a counselor, teacher, or a confidant and hash out your thoughts. Don’t keep it in and end up being a bully or punching bag! Don’t get me wrong their is bad judgement and one that needs constructive criticism. When you understand the difference and again be thankful for those humble beginnings. I am still going through things myself, it is not easy for me and I have to tackle things one at a time, that is all I can do instead of literally being a zombie. There are differences to understand a good situation versus a bad situation. Be kind and don’t assume, for everyone is going through trials themselves. It is easier for some to understand people through adversity because everyone has gone through it at one point or another. Today we are sucked in by consumerism, our phones, or some addiction or another and having rose colored glasses that are not on, then we are losing sight of one another. Very heart breaking that we can live in this world if and only if we understood how we treat each other poorly because the mindset of “I don’t care if they fall off the face or the earth or you are dead to me”. Lots of healing in our world to be done, one person at a time and it is hard! Until then we wait for Providence to step in and the willingness of the individual to emerge as a new tree of life. It is a process and we eventually get there. Thank you… through my perspective, one of many reasons of what I can relate to the fall of empathy today.
In the early 80’s there was a lot of abduction awareness in talking to strangers or others. It is key to help young children to define the abduction awareness and taken “stranger danger” out of context, thus learning to be judgmental and taking away socialization. An excerpt from the author of kidsmartz.org, “Since they can not understand the meaning of what a stranger is we need to have talks about how we identify strangers. Identifying those who are not are people we do want our children to come to are teachers, police officers, or parents with children” are safety measures. Again identify and set the boundaries so that a young individual can distinguish than be afraid of the world or turn out to be a bully. Here are some good tips from: https://www.kidsmartz.org/StrangerDanger on Rethinking Stranger Danger”.
- Don’t Say: Never talk to strangers…Say: You should never approach anyone unless it is a uniformed police officer, a store clerk with a name tag or a parent with a child.
- Don’t Say: Stay away from people you don’t know…Say: It is important to get my permission if you are going anywhere.
- Don’t Say: You can tell someone is bad by looking at them…Say: Pay attention to what people do, tell me right away if anyone ask you to keep a secret, makes you feel uncomfortable or makes you go with them.
When you learn this at a young age, the little sponges they are, can file this away in their little minds and a healthy concept of socialization in relationships, situations, or what ever it may be will reap the rewards later on. It takes an endurance of patience and with the help of parents and educators to teach the little ones how to approach and think of certain situations and stop the confusion. Learning the right values can only be set by an example, inspiring mentors and motivated individuals. It takes time and everyone are at different levels of responsibilities and obligations. Anyone who lacks the skills or values of compassion, patience, understanding, and forgiveness can be to helped and people can enjoy their lives.
Reflection: Define what good value mean to you and do you practice compassion? Can you distinguish between someone who displays good character and those who want to cause harm? Do you lack compassion or empathy and where did it come from? Are you stuck?